joseph chilton pearce

Joseph Chilton Pearce, from What Babies Want:
These ancient encoded wisdoms and powers and strengths that are released at the moment of birth. I had read about this, but I had never delivered one of my own until twenty years ago, and I had grown children then and I think 8 or 9 grand children by then, but I had another child of my own and I delivered it, I mean I was the only other person present at his birth, the child’s mother delivered it. But I was stunned and astonished at the tremendous energy that filled that whole house, the house shook with that energy and it was an awesome near mystical experience for me, I would say that it was the closest thing to a wide awake mystical experience that I had ever had. Those of us who have delivered our children and made that contact ourselves know that it is an invitation to the greatest intimacy that life ever affords us, offered in that moment; and the infant is the one that offers that total vulnerable intimacy, and if we do not meet it, then the infant feels betrayed by the world, and so they’re coming into a world they can’t trust because it does not meet their most critical need right at that point
And from Magical Child, Chapter 10: Establishing the Matrix:
She conceives because she wants to create life, as her intent drives her. Her pregnancy is then first in her life and the source of her strength and calm. She knows the creative thrust of life supports her, that she is acting with the flow and has the strength of that flow. A husband may prove vital to this calm confidence, but I have met mothers who maintained their centeredness without one. I would opt strongly for the nuclear bond. [...] The strength and support of a husband or mate is almost essential for an anxiety-free pregnancy and mothering. The role of the father as a transitional figure from mother to world, particularly after the child's second year, cannot be overstressed. I am leaving fathers out here simply because the strength and response of the mother is the issue. His strength must feed into hers and through hers to the new life. That is the way nature has designed the process.

The mother is responsible, able to respond. She responds to the needs of her body with the same respect and care she will show for her infant in and out of the womb. She responds by making her own preparations for delivery, birth, and bonding. During the last months of pregnancy, she works specifically for bonding with her unborn child. [...]

She keeps communion with the child, thinking positive and creative thoughts about him/her. They are already friends. She attends to her child, becomes aware of different movements and responses. She is, from the first signs with her, learning about her child, learning to take her cues from it and respond accordingly.

Knowing anxiety to be the great crippler of intelligence, she works purposely for a calm repose. She begins each day in quiet meditation, establishing her union with the flow of life and with her child. She closes each day in the same way and makes her time in between a living meditation, a communion and rapport, a quieting of the mind to tune in on the inner signals. She reduces all the fragmenting intentions of life to the single intent of her act of creation.

She does not indulge in doubt. She chooses what she will entertain in her mind, and she chooses confidence, which means moving with faith. She knows the contents of her mind are matters of her own choice, that anxiety contents stir adrenal steroids that are passed on to her child.

She may elect to deliver the child herself, with or without help. She does not break the even tenor of her days but continues in her life routines. She avoids the risk of serious startle or stress, knowing the adrenal flood would transfer to her infant. She prepares a proper delivery and birthing place: private, quiet, dimly lit, with no possibility of unwanted intrusion or noise. The necessities for tidying up are laid out, and a warm bath may be readied. The preliminary signals are noticed with rising anticipation and excitement, but without alarm. Relieved of the trauma of having to rush off to the hospital, she continues her routines until the final moment.

If she has help (the midwife, perhaps a doctor, and the father), they are there only for the physical delivery itself. They maintain quiet and calm, giving strength and support. Onlookers and friends distract, break the flow, set up expectancies discordant with the flow of the event. Her intent and intentions must merge into a single point of total absorption. She uses the birthing position adopted throughout the ages, squatting on her haunches or perhaps on her knees. This aligns her with the earth, with gravity, puts all her muscles into the most advantageous positions for the work at hand.. She flows with the process, a balance of stresses and relaxations.

She knows what to do by heeding the 3-billion-year biological coding built into her genes. Her knowing is not articulated, though-out, coherent, or verbal. She is just a coordinate of smooth actions. Her thought is her body action, and in this she is like a child. She is gripped by that same intensity found in deep play (skiing a dangerous slope, scaling a cliff face, fast tennis): the total attentiveness and single-mindedness of confrontation, an ultimate encounter. Every move, act, signal heeded is an unbroken flow of controlled abandon. By being responsible, she is in her power, a joyful response to a body-knowing that “breathes” her and does the proper thing at the proper time.